Initial Planning

Let me see, I’m trying to remember exactly how all these started.

It was out of the blue that we decided to get married and knowing my husband-to-be, there was no proper proposal but its okay because he promised he will compensate back. But still, I held it against him for a while and made fun of him.

This is the stressful part… I can plan very well, but I’m not very good at taking action. My husband-to-be is very good at implementation but horrible at planning. Things were a wee-bit tangle up and there was a lot of screaming especially from my end. But it is something we have to deal with and talk or scream through it (like it or not).

My mother had the master to pick an auspicious date for our wedding (mind you we are Christian). But what the heck, it’s something she believes in and at least she feels useful and included for her daughter’s wedding. So, the date is 3^rd October 2009. Yeah!! We have a date!!!

I wanted a garden wedding but it’s not going to happen. Why, you ask? Answer to that is, because my husband-to-be said it’s too expensive and we shall go for a restaurant dinner… Errr… Okay, I guess. The reason why I said okay is because… the dinner is actually not for us; it’s for people who we are going to invite and for parents to gloat. So, why spend so much time and energy thinking about it?

Fine, we decided restaurant will do and we did our restaurant hunting. Bad neeewwwssss… It seems like the entire restaurants kingdom has something against us, they are all booked on the 3^rd since a year ago. I was cursing left, right and centre. WHY??? Okay… okay… chill. Solution, I need solution. Then we decided we will have the dinner on Friday evening and church on Saturday (our biggest mistake). All churches are booked too!!! NOOOOOOOO!!!

In this duration of time, we had hell lot of arguments. We argue nearly about everything, even on things that has nothing to do with the wedding. I feel silly now thinking about it =P but this is life. This is how things are going to be, 2 different people with different opinions. What I want may not be what he wants. We have to find ways to solve the problems instead of dwelling in it and blaming each other for whatever it is. Talking is difficult, when I talk he zoned out and when he talks I zoned out (or I will start screaming and jumping around like a mad woman).

Well, it’s was not easy but it was not impossible to talk it out. Obviously, there’s a lot of compromise to make. I gave my husband-to-be a list of things that I must have or must be my way and he did the same. Where is the list? Gone with the wind.