The Mishap of a Wedding (Part 2)

After the funeral ceremony ended and everyone was settling down, I was reasoning with myself about what happened and thought of discussing it with my fiancé. I tried to make things as simple as possible so that he can understand what I was going through. It was so difficult and I was exploding like dynamites at everything my fiancé said. Finally we came to conclusion; he will talk to his mother.

It took a lot of compromising and patience to agree to each other. My energy was all sucked out and I was basically lifeless. My fiancé promised me, he will try his best to persuade his mum to change her mind about the 100 days thing. Why do I want to stick to my original date? I will simplify it.

PROS
• My actual date is 16th January 2010.
• We are doing everything in one day. Church then dinner.
• We have booked restaurant and church.
• We have paid deposit to the restaurant.
• We have set the date for gown fitting and photography, which we have enough time for our parents to show off our wedding album.

CONS
• We can’t have our wedding in November; too rush so we must plan for December.
• Somehow, some way people like to have wedding in December. Most of the places are booked and not like we have any other options, since we already paid RM3000 deposit. So, we have to pick whatever available date.
• I was so closed to not having any gowns to wear because most of the gowns are booked.
• Our wedding album will only be ready by the first week of December.
• My wedding clashes with my best friend engagement party.
• Everything has to reschedule.

Why don’t we pick a date that’s convenient to us? This is the best part. According to my mother in law, we have already asked the master (sifu) to pick the previous date, and now we have to stick to it. Why? I have no idea and she didn’t give my fiancé a reason. I did my tantrum dance at home; it was beautifully danced on the marble floor. Then I said to my fiancé “Fine, as long as your mother go with you to the master shop”. My fiancé have no slightest clue about this type of things, so to me it’s always safer to have parents there. They always ask the right questions at the right time.

So, my fiancé spoke to his mum, trying his best to tell her the pros and cons of it and it turned ugly. He tried inviting her to join him to meet with the master (sifu), but she rejected him. Why? (This I have the answer for you) She said she doesn’t want to go because she is a Christian and she doesn’t believe in this kind of things. Huh?? What?? Yeah, that’s exactly how I reacted. Then it turned ugly, really ugly. She disowned him and told him that he disrespected her by answering back. Does it make any sense to you? Basically, what she is trying to tell her son is “My way or the highway”. I gave my fiancé back the same thing “Wife way or the highway”. You see, my fiancé was stuck in between. One is his mother and one is going to be his wife. He obviously wants to please both but it’s not easy. What I wanted is for him to stand firm and tell his mother off about her ideas.

Oooh… How I did my tantrum dance all around the house, the marble floor and the wooden floor, I definitely have mastered it by now. The tantrum dance was going on for a few days and I rather enjoyed it. During the tantrum dance, I had this little knock on my head. I stopped and I think (actually using my brain instead of my feet and hands), then it became clear to me.

First of all, I’m angry about all these “Better to believe than not, just in case something happen”, “I don’t believe in this kind of things, I’m a Christian/Protestant/what-so-ever”. She was confusing me, is she really a Protestant or not, or is she just believing in whatever that is conveniently for her to believe or she just want to believe in things that she would like to believe in? I really have no clue about it and I gave up trying to solve it.

To be continued... again...